Thursday, October 13, 2011

Expect the Unexpected

Sooo..if there's someone asking me what do I learn since I became a mom, probably I would answer: I learn to expect the unexpected. Of course every parent will have high expectations on their children. Healthy, happy, smart and successful. That's totally normal. But sometimes, we just have to accept things as what they are.

I wanted to breastfeed Yofel until he's 2 years old, but unfortunately, I couldn't do it. So many things happened, so many choices had to be made, and eventually we gave him formula. Was it the end of the world? Maybe for some time, it felt like it was. But when I look back at that time now, I can smile and think ,"Well, we have survived, he's healthy and happy and I love him more everyday!"

I wanted Yofel to stay on his car seat everytime we went with car. But for several reasons, we had to give up our car when Yofel was less than 1 year old, and we started to travel by taxi, or by joining someone's car. So we had to say goodbye to the car seat, and well..accept the fact that it doesn't mean the end of the world either =D

I was also dreaming that Yofel will be very easy with eating his food. He will eat everything, from Indonesian food to Middle East one if necessary. He will be very adaptive even if we have to travel to Alaska. But the fact is totally different than my dream! Yofel is a very very very picky eater, not only he doesn't want to eat Mediteranian food (oh well, I can live with this, hehe), he can't even chew his food properly! He's choking and vomiting every time we gave him real solid food. Fried rice? Baked potato? Some fancy quiche? Out of questions.

Sometimes I just want to give up. Sometimes everything seems so difficult. Sometimes I don't have enough patience to deal with all of this. And I could only look at the kids on the next table in the restaurant with full envy. They eat everything!!! Sometimes even in the high chair!! Oh my goodness. God I want that happens on my table so much!!!

But then again, I think I've learned the lessons. I remember when I waited anxiously for Yofel's teeth to show up. And not until he's over 9 months old that miracle happened =D And what about when he kept on crawling until he's one year old? And how happy I was when suddenly, out of the blue,he looked at me with his smiling face, stood up on his two feet, and walked. Just like that!

So I think God does make everything beautiful in His time. I learn to expect the unexpected, and accept the unacceptable. And yet I am very grateful for the lessons Yofel gave me throughout these years.

Happy birthday, my curly boy. These past two years were the most wonderful time in my life =) I love you.


  1. Hai Astrid :)
    Tosss dulu ahh.. emg yahh being parents tuh byk hal yg ga sesuai bayangan kita.. ngalamin jg soal ASI + Car Seat dan (kadang2) soal mkn..
    Tp gw suka smangatnya, bkn don't expect much, tp expect the unexpected :)

  2. etassie10:55 AM

    Kenalan dulu ahh :) *salaman*. Pengalamannya mirip sekali dengan anakku yang pertama. Patrick got his first teeth at 12 mos. Udah sampe di kasih vitamin flour gak manjur juga. Feeding him been so hard since he is 7 mos to 2.5 y.o. He kept turning away his face from the food and the spoon. Anaknya frustasi, yang kasih makan lebih frustasi lagi. Sampe udah putus asa browsing menu2 makanan, coba ini dan itu, hasilnya nihil. Then suddenly his appetite became normal when he was about 3 y.o. Segala macem dimakan dan di coba. Voila! berat badannya menanjak drastis :). Urusan jalan juga begitu, sempet bingung kenapa Patrick gak hobi merangkak ataupun merembet di kursi/dinding. Mendadak di umur 11 bulan, dia berdiri, berjalan sambil ketawa2.

    We've been there, done that. Those experiences made you and me a super mom :).

  3. @oci: yep, semangat semangat semangaaat pokoknya mah ya =D

    @etassie: salam kenal ya! thanks buat spiritnya, super mom =)

  4. Happy Belated Birthday, Yofel :)

    kapan2 main sama Mika yuk...

    sampai sekarang pun, mika kalo makan suka mood2an. kadang suka sama sop, kadang ngeliat sayur sedikit, gak mau makan..

  5. nice post Tid :)
    We have to face the reality when raising a baby. There's no perfect Mum and no perfect baby..They are only exist in the magz and TV :P
    Enjoy your days :)
    Happy 2nd Bday Yofel...makin mirip mummy nya ya..cute boy..

  6. happy birthday Yofel.... wish you another great year!
    wow, udah 2 tahun aja... cepat banget!

  7. @fer: makaci tante fer, iya nihhh pengen ketemuan mika =)

    @karin: hehe beneeerrrr..perfect parents don't exist yah! hihihi....santai ajalah =)

    @mer: makasih teh mer! ih kangen udah lama ngga saling mengunjungi ya!